Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to body and soul. ~John Muir
I wish you all a most blessed day!!
The topic on the table today is HAPPY.
The reason – Because we all want a piece of the “Happy” pie.
The problem – Obtaining it.
The solution – Wait for it…Teach it.
Stay with me here as I run through a “typical” lifespan.
~ Born, daycare, school, work, retire, die.
Awfully bleak, right? I would concur. I certainly would be unhappy if my life translated out like that. That’s why it is time for a change, a revolution if you will. A revolution of happy people.
Now, I do believe there is a difference between happy people and selfishly happy people. Stay with me here because I am sure this is important. Truly happy people are just that ~ happy. They have a light inside them that is not connected to possessions or acts. They are happy because they learned/understand that happiness is a state of mind. Selfish people become, repeat that…become happy when possessions are acquired or acts are performed whether by them or for them. The typical…I’ll be happy when (fill in the blank).
So, here is the interesting part, let’s digress into childhood and look at what we are teaching our children? Clearly, we are teaching them the latter, that happiness comes from obtaining. The problem is the quest to obtain is infinite. Therefore, the quest for happiness becomes equally infinite! Brilliant strong parenting at it’s best!! (Insert sarcasm) What an amazing way to set our kids up to fail even before they’ve left the gate. This makes me sad and mad and too many other adjectives to throw at you.
Even more unfortunate is the life we are creating for them. We send them into the world with the ability to read and write so they can obtain great jobs only to pay shrinks, yogis, priests, pastors, counselors and life coaches to help them “find” themselves. How to make sense of their lives and how to obtain……you guessed it, the elusive ~ HAPPINESS.
I am clearly very passionate about raising “happy” children. Far more passionate now then I ever thought I would be. To give you some history, the light bulb came on when we pulled our kids from traditional school and chose to home school. After about two weeks of decompression from the rigor of our old lives I realized what a rat race we had entangled ourselves in. How we had worn ourselves down into drones functioning to the schedules dictated by the institutions. Then we just STOPPED. BOOM!! Silence…followed by time. Time to be a family. Time to laugh and play at will. Time to decide what would fill our days and what would be deleted. Once that happened our world as we knew it ceased to exist and that drove our happy quota through the roof.
Happiness is without question the most sought after intangible in the world. It can not be bought or traded. It can not pass hands or be left to someone. It can, however, be shown, taught and exhibited. It is one of the few things on earth that can be obtained equally and unilaterally, no strings attached. Most importantly, it is free.
So why on God’s green earth isn’t everyone happy? Simply put, we need to let go. We need to stop attaching our “happy” to people, places and things and realize that happiness is built brick by brick by living a happy life. Leaving the bad behind and growing day by day into your own personal happy. Realizing that your job is not your happy, your car is not your happy, your house is not your happy. These things may make “life” easier but they surely should not be attached to whether or not you are happy. When these things are attached to your happiness they make your happiness vulnerable – vulnerable to the slightest shift in change. 1 million people a year commit suicide. Their happiness was vulnerable and therefore they made the ultimate, permanent decision. Very tragic for them and all those who loved them.
Therefore, we must learn from others who are happy. We must teach happy to our children with the utmost vigor!! We must make sure without a shadow of a doubt they go into the world armed with the tools they need to keep themselves afloat. We must give them the ability to compartmentalized their life into necessary and unnecessary and distinguish the effects each have on their “happy”.
We must do this for them so they can make their world a better place. It will be our greatest gift as happy people are nice people and that seems to be just what the world needs right now.
Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.
Be blessed, Stay blessed and remember if you don’t laugh at yourself someone will do it for you!!
Frugality is one of the most beautiful and joyful words in the English language,
and yet one that we are culturally cut off from understanding and enjoying.
The consumption society has made us feel that happiness lies in having things,
and has failed to teach us the happiness of not having things.
I hope this Sunday finds you and yours happy and healthy.
Here’s my thought for the day – Enjoy simplicity.
I find simplicity especially necessary in a world that has inundated us with “things”.
Overstimulation from media, family, friends, work, social life and home life can become maddening.
Some time ago, we as a family decided to take a step back and try to “quiet” some of the noise.
Low and behold it has worked. Immediately our close little family became even closer and the noise seemed to quiet itself.
My prayer for you and your family this beautiful Sunday is that you find just the right balance of simplicity to fit your life.
Until next time…Whatever’s good for your soul…do that!
Be blessed, stay blessed and remember if you don’t laugh at yourself someone will do it for you!
Welcome to yet another beautiful day!!
Here’s a quick little (I like to think inspirational) story…
I walked outside yesterday to let my dogs out and next thing I know my feetsies are soaked.
I looked down and was like, “What on earth?”
And then that ugly feeling overtook me…
You know the feeling..when you remember what it was you were suppose to remember hours ago, but clearly did not.
Like…Let’s say – in this particular case…TURN OFF THE HOSE that was filling your pool!!!
13 hours – 13 long hours our hose ran when it was supposed to only run for 30 minutes.
So, I texted my husband with these two photos and asked him if we forgot something.
This is yet another reason why I love my husband so very much.
His reply was, “Looks good, maybe just 5 more minutes then turn it off.”
He cracks me up!!
Choices – Life is full of choices.
I’m not going to ask you how you would have responded because it is none of my beeswax.
But it is good food for thought – Think about it….
Blame fixes nothing, fights make people sad and mistakes are only human.
There is a book I love to read and reference often, it is written by Albert E. Cliffe and it is titled “Let Go and Let God”.
You don’t have to have a specific religious affiliation to read it or even have a belief in general, it’s just good common sense advice.
This is a quote from the book I’d like to share, “In our daily contacts, therefore, we should try to keep away from arguments of any kind. Arguments create bad feelings and often result in a sense of humiliation.”
I like that. I enjoy harmony and balance and laughter and smiling.
I do not enjoy fighting or crying or blaming or feeling bad so I avoid these. It’s working out pretty good so far.
Here is the added bonus…take a closer look at the above photo.
Did you even notice the clouds?
At first I didn’t either. They took my breath away when I saw them. I hope they do the same for you.
Until next time…You don’t always have to look up to see the sky.
Be blessed, stay blessed and remember to laugh at yourself or someone will do it for you!